How to Annoy a Pregnant Woman in Her 3rd Trimester

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Pregnancy is a unique and special time. There are so many things I love about being pregnant. Feeling kicks and knowing my body is housing a tiny growing human is priceless. It’s not always easy or pleasant though! The months can be long, uncomfortable, and tiring. And once you get into the final trimester there are some things you get tired of hearing as a pregnant woman. 

Here are some questions or comments I have encountered in my 3rd trimester. I am assuming I am not alone in my experience of hearing these things. If you want to annoy a pregnant woman, here is a sure fire list that will help you achieve that! Or if you want to make the wiser choice, here is a list of things to avoid saying. 

How to Annoy a Pregnant Woman in Her 3rd Trimester | Duluth Moms Blog

1. You look uncomfortable

This is probably true. Carrying the extra weight of a growing human does make life pretty uncomfortable. I already know that I am uncomfortable. But you don’t need to point at the fact that I also look as uncomfortable as I feel. When in doubt, just give a compliment instead of pointing out the obvious.

2. Are you sure it’s not twins?!

Although most of the time I know people mean this as a harmless joke, but I don’t really find all that funny. I have a fairly short torso, so guess where my belly goes? Outward! My belly gets big and it’s just how I carry my babies. Implying that my belly must be housing 2 babies doesn’t help me feel better about the massive watermelon sized belly I have. Trust me, I know my belly is big. I live with the thing 24/7. 

3. Try to enjoy sleep while you can!

Yes, I know that once the baby comes my sleep schedule will change. There will be 2am feedings and frequent waking. But sleep in the 3rd trimester is not exactly easy to come by either. I would rather be waking up with a newborn instead of having to pee AGAIN, fight annoying heartburn, or try to roll over and find a semi-comfortable position. Trust me, I want good sleep! But it can be tough towards the end of pregnancy to find good rest. 

4. Are you sure about your due date?

Again, don’t imply that I am so large that something must not be right. Due dates aren’t always accurate, but that doesn’t mean what the doctor said is weeks off. You can rest assured that I am counting down the days and weeks til I get to meet my baby, no need to second guess.

5. So, you are still pregnant?!

Insert heavy eye roll. This question or comment make me dread the last weeks of the 3rd trimester. You still see this big belly that people insist is twins? Well then, obviously the answer is yes, I am still pregnant. Eventually this baby will come out. And don’t worry, you will find out when that happens!

 

I am pretty sure I have been guilty of saying some of these things to my pregnant friends. Maybe you have also found yourself saying these things too. For some reason these are all common things to say or ask. 

Currently, I am in my 3rd trimester and I know I will hear these things in the coming weeks. I have prepared myself for that. It’s just going to happen. Part of me feels like I should have snarky responses ready for when it does. But in all likelyhood I will respond with a smile, because I know most people really don’t mean to annoy or frustrate me. 

My advice to any first time pregnant moms out there; prepare yourself to hear these things (and maybe even more)! For some reason people feel like pregnancy gives them a right to comment on your body, and it can be frustrating.  Don’t take it personally, even though it is hard. 

My advice for everyone else; avoid saying these annoying things to your pregnant friends! If you have been pregnant yourself you should be able to remember some of the frustration that comes in the 3rd trimester. Do your best not to add to that frustration. Simple compliments go a long way. And if you can’t think of something nice to say, don’t say anything at all.